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A Comparison of Your Charts
This astrological report looks at your birth charts to see how the two of you will tend to interact in dating, a love affair, or -- especially -- in a long-term partnership like marriage. Its aim is to make you more conscious of what’s really going on between you. As you read, you’ll get a better appreciation of what each of you wants and needs when you pair off with someone else. Regarding your relationship with this particular partner, you’ll see strengths that you can cultivate, and also learn about the possible problems that could get in the way of your happiness.

If you read about problems, don’t worry. Almost every astrological combination has both positive and negative possibilities. You’ll read about the ways people tend to misuse various astrological combinations, but you may never experience these negative sides. Much depends on other things in your chart and on the way you’re handling what’s been given to you.

The important thing is to be aware of your choices. As you read, you’ll see that when faced with virtually any so-called problem between the two of you, you can choose a desirable or an undesirable way to act. This report will try to show you where the problem is coming from, and suggest constructive things that you can do. It will also alert you to the strengths that you can build upon to create an increasingly strong and satisfying relationship.

Your Styles of Relating. We’ll first look at each of you as individuals. We’ll start with your basic personality type, and then look more closely at your needs and attitudes regarding romance, partnership and sex. Your section is addressed to you as an individual, but if your partner also reads it, he or she may better understand your overall approach to life and the way you go about relating to people.
How You See Each Other. For each of you, we’ll explore how the way you see your partner is shaped by the lens of your own horoscope.
The Dynamics between You. Here we’ll look at the kinds of dramas that tend to occur when the two of you are together. The aspects that link a point in your chart to a point in your partner’s chart will show both the assets and the potential problems in your relationship.
The Chart of the Relationship Itself. Finally, we’ll analyze the relationship itself by combining the birth charts of each of you into a single “composite chart.” When your relationship is well established, the composite chart shows how you as a couple approach the rest of the world, and how you’re viewed as a result of being together.

For Jacqueline: Your Style of Relating
To find someone who’s right for you and then form a happy and lasting relationship, you first need to have a sense of who you really are and what you need and want. A look at your own birth chart will show where your strengths are and what you tend to lack. It can give you perspective on your own nature, helping you to make allowances for the blind spots that can harm your interactions with others. It can also give clues about what sort of love partner would make you feel most happy and complete.

You have many planets in Fire signs or houses.
With an abundance of Fire symbolism in your chart, you’re most likely a warm and enthusiastic person who enjoys actively engaging with the outer world. You also tend to be trusting and idealistic, and expect the best from others. If you’re disappointed in their behavior, you promise yourself that in the future you’ll either avoid relationships or be more cautious in your dealings with people. But then you tend to forget these intentions. When a new potential partner appears on the scene, you decide that this new relationship is different, and enter it with your usual enthusiasm, optimism and bit of naiveté.

Being too trustful of others can open you to hurt, but becoming a cynic is not the solution. Yes, you can solicit other people’s support in your endeavors, and use their encouragement to sustain your level of enthusiasm so that you can accomplish more and more. But also be as self-reliant as possible, and be sure to maintain your own identity. In the end, your positive attitude may rub off on those who are important to you, so that they’ll participate more wholeheartedly in the relationship.

You have few or no planets in Earth signs or houses.
An overall lack of the Earth element in your horoscope suggests that you are either impractical or not very interested in the material world. Thus you may be bored by down-to-earth details, or not able to handle them. In either case, it’s helpful to have someone who can take care of the details for you. A partner who is too earthbound could be tiresome, but you, with your lack of Earth, may be able to add a spark of inspiration. Anyway, try to be grateful for your partner’s diligence, which allows you to feel less burdened.

You have few or no planets in Air signs or houses.
An overall lack of the Air element in your chart suggests that you tend to have little patience with people who are vague and abstract in their communications. You want people to get quickly to the point. Preferring actions to words, you want to see progress, not listen to or create elaborate plans. Because of this, you may find it difficult to visualize the general overview of any project. Perhaps you could join forces with someone who can guide you along the correct path while you concentrate on small segments of it. You may have to suffer through some seemingly unnecessary verbiage, but if you attain your goal, it will all seem worthwhile.

Cardinal, Fixed and Mutable modes are quite evenly balanced.
Having a fairly equal distribution of planets in Cardinal, Fixed and Mutable signs gives you a useful ability to suit your mode of action to the situation. When appropriate, you can behave in a Cardinal manner, leaping in to intervene directly. At other times, you can use the Fixed symbolism of your chart to be firm, stand your ground, and preserve what is valuable. And in yet others, you can draw upon your Mutable strengths to be agile and adaptable, quickly shifting as the circumstances require. Overall, this helps you to adapt to whatever challenges your relationship presents. You may, however, need to make an effort to be understanding if you find your partner getting stuck in one mode.

Your Sun is in Leo.
Your Sun in Leo reinforces the idea that you probably aren’t the shy and retiring type. Whether or not you’re literally on stage, you’re a natural actor, and all you need is an audience of one. If you’re performing before those who applaud and sing your praises, you’ll tend to be warm and outgoing. If you feel ignored or disapproved of, you may seek attention by becoming louder and louder, and may shout your own praises in hopes that others will realize that you’re worth liking. (Your partner can always bring out your best side by telling you and others how wonderful you are!)

Your saving grace is a natural warmth and generosity. You enjoy bestowing gifts on others and can be so proud of what you’re doing that you announce it to the world. This could be embarrassing for the recipient. Refusing to accept gifts from you might be too subtle for you to understand, however. The person involved would be wiser just to say thank you, and tell everyone what you’ve done. This way, you won’t have to brag about it, and the other person will get to keep the gift.

Also, you’re likely to prefer fun to work. Menial tasks are for peasants!. You’d rather have a good time than work hard. But you’ll perform even the most arduous task if your partner makes a game out of it. For example, your partner might say, “I wonder how long it will take to wash all the windows on the first floor.” Hearing that challenge, you’ll get out your stopwatch and squeegee, and, before you know it, all the windows will be washed. Whereas, if you’d been asked directly to wash the windows, you might never have done it.

If your relationship should need improving, you can rely on your capacity to introduce fun and joy. When you’re planning to do something that’s fun, take your partner along. Though you tend to resist change, there are things you can do without doing anything drastic. One is simply to treat your partner as you’d like to be treated. Instead of always being concerned with what others think of you, pay compliments about what your partner does well. This shows that you’ve noticed and are appreciative, and it could lead to some of the same for you.

Your Moon is in Aries.
The way you express your feelings is usually direct, honest and simple. You can tell others how you feel about them, and your sincere manner of displaying your feelings lets the world know that they are genuine. You find it easy to explain your reasons, because they’re usually formulated without deep and weighty analysis.

Since you ordinarily don’t analyze your emotions deeply, they may sometimes spontaneously erupt. Basically, you react to the behavior of others. If people are nice to you, you like them. If they aren’t, you don’t, and it’s usually the most recent encounter that determines the way you feel. This may make you seem inconsistent, and your behavior may be difficult for a partner to understand. Once your mode of operating is understood, however, your partner can not only grasp the meaning of your moods but also learn to deal with them.

One of the positive sides of your Moon is that you don’t mind if your partner understands your feelings. You aren’t concerned with dark secrets being unearthed, because there probably are none. However, your emotional simplicity can also be a point of vulnerability. Anyone who wants to hurt you can do so easily by pointing out your faults. Your immediate reaction may be to lash out in anger. The anger will probably be gone as soon as you express it. You don’t harbor grudges for long, nor do you look for the hidden meanings in people’s actions. However, the impact on your feelings of self-worth may be long-lasting. You may not show it, but the wound will still be there.

While you may keep your hurt feelings to yourself, it’s more likely that you’ll simply return each insult that’s thrown at you. This can make for a tumultuous relationship. This in itself may not be bad, because you may like to express your feelings and you may need stimulation to do this. Nevertheless, if your self-esteem is attacked, the damage that occurs may far outweigh the excitement.

If you often have hurt feelings in your relationship, discuss this with your partner. Because your feelings are clear and simple, it should be easy to convey them. If your partner can do the same, you can begin to make changes quickly. If probing is necessary, you may not have the attention span for long conversations, so have short ones often until you can determine what should be done. And while you’re doing this, try, try to be more patient.

Your Axis of Relationship
The horizontal line that separates the upper half of your chart from the lower half symbolizes the horizon. It suggests two arms reaching out, and it is in fact your “axis of relationship.” On the left-hand or eastern side of your chart there is the Ascendant (or rising sign), which signifies you and the way that you present yourself to others. On the right-hand or western side there is the Descendant, which signifies the sort of partner you’ll be drawn to and who will make you feel more complete. The two work together: any discussion of your rising sign (you) implies your setting sign (the partner who will complement you).
If the birth time for your chart is accurate, you have Scorpio rising. This suggests that in relating to the world you tend to be especially deep- feeling and passionate about whatever issues or individuals interest you. Whether or not others notice this, it is the way you feel. Because of your persistence and high degree of focus, it’s hard to distract you or make you move in a new direction. Some may view you as obsessive, but this is usually only when you feel that your goals are blocked. If things are moving along the way you want them to, you’ll just continue on your chosen path and people can count on this.

In intimate relationships you need a partner who is dependable, and you’re also steadfast yourself. When you’re choosing a partner, trust and loyalty are at the top of your list. You could be suspicious, but fortunately you’re likely to choose a partner who is habit-oriented. Once you understand your partner’s behavioral pattern and see it repeated again and again, you feel more secure. If the pattern does change and you do become suspicious, before leaving the relationship you probably take your time and investigate thoroughly to determine if your partner is trustworthy. Since your partner is probably habit-oriented, however, he or she neither takes relationships lightly nor leaves them any more quickly than you do. Therefore, you’ll probably be together for a long time.

If you’re both creatures of habit, however, you may sometimes feel that you’re in a rut. The rut may feel secure, but if it doesn’t otherwise gratify you, you might want a change. Making changes may not come easily, but it could be fun. First, recognize that you’re both looking for sensual pleasure, and this can go beyond sex. As you discuss changes, surround yourselves with anything that smells, tastes, feels, sounds or looks good. Also, include the pleasure principle in any decisions that you ultimately make. While neither of you may change quickly, you can enjoy yourselves while you’re in the process of change.

When you’re negotiating, it’s best not to make big demands on each other. Neither of you likes to be told what to do, and you’re both capable of doing the exact opposite of what the other person wants. Instead of barking orders, it will be more effective to offer your partner a few alternatives that you yourself can accept. Then discuss the possibilities. You will be bringing your intuition into the discussion, and your partner is likely to see the alternatives from a practical point of view. When you disagree, it may take effort to come to an understanding, because both of you may be stubborn. But once you can work out a compromise, your stubbornness will become joint persistence, and you’ll be an unbeatable force.

Dating and Romance
To take a look at your specific approach to romance, partnership and sex, we’re now going to look at the houses that govern these areas in your chart. These houses describe both what you have to give to a relationship, and also what you probably want from your partner.

Relationships start with a period when you’re checking each other out, and aren’t yet really committed. This stage is covered by your Fifth House, which also has to do with amusements and self-expression. In a romance, the Fifth House shows how you wine and dine each other in the dating stage. Having fun together in a romantic setting helps you to get the relationship off the ground.

When you’re married, this area of your chart turns into the place where you refresh and renew both yourself and your relationship. To keep the spark glowing, it’s a good idea periodically to let go of your duties, play, be romantic and even a bit outrageous. If you neglect this essential human need, it can be filled by romances outside of marriage, risky activities like gambling, or escapes like drinking or drugs, which are other less satisfactory ways that this house can find expression. For longevity and happiness in any relationship, you need to keep the fun, romance and playful element alive.

On a deeper level, the Fifth House is where you come to establish yourself as an individual. Through being brave and taking risks, through finding what activities and people make you happy, through games and role-playing, and through expressing yourself (all Fifth-House activities), you come to know who you really are. Only after you’ve done this are you really ready to commit yourself to a Seventh-House relationship such as marriage.

Each house brings in a variety of symbolic themes, as shown by the sign on the beginning or cusp of the house, other signs falling within the house, planets within the house, and the planet that traditionally “rules” the sign on the cusp. For your relationship to find its fullest expression, it’s important that, in your interactions together, both of you try to express as many of the following themes as possible.

Aries is on your Fifth-House cusp.
Aries on your Fifth cusp suggests that you want action in your romantic relationships. Either you like to be assertive yourself, or you’re drawn to others who like to take the lead. At least at the start of your courtship, you enjoy spontaneity and tend to focus on immediate gratification rather than long-term implications.

Mars, the ruler of your Fifth House, is in the Tenth
The planet that’s traditionally associated with the sign on the Fifth-House cusp brings in additional considerations. Placed in the Tenth House, it means that for you there’s a connection between courtship and the outer world. Public opinion may be important to you, and so you don’t tend to hide your romantic partners in a closet. So that you can be proud to be seen with them, you may be attracted to those who are successful and/or look good. Without the judgment of others, however, you can see these people realistically. Even if there are other indications in your chart that you don’t always view a romantic partner realistically, ultimately the truth of the real world seeps in. You might find yourself sometimes wishing for more excitement in this area, but excitement or romance without a degree of security will not be satisfying to you.

Your Moon is in the Fifth.
With your Moon in the Fifth, romance and other forms of celebration and self-expression become an essential part of your emotional life. Even if you’re a practical, down-to-earth person in other areas, in romance your emotions will be strongly touched. Though you’ll have deep feelings regarding your partner, they may fluctuate depending on your mood and the situation. When you express your feelings, it may take the form of nurturing, or of emotional outbursts. Often the outbursts occur if you’re not receiving the nurturing you yourself need. Having tantrums will probably not bring you the treatment you want. Instead, you might try to mother your partner a bit, and possibly your partner will give you some tender loving care in return.

Your Uranus is in the Fifth.
You crave excitement in romance, and may be attracted to unusual or creative romantic partners who might also be unreliable. Alternatively, they could be mentally stimulating or come from a different background than your own. It’s also possible to be involved with a romantic partner who seems ordinary, but who shares your desire for a bit of excitement and surprise during your good times together.

Becoming Partners
The Seventh House is traditionally the house of marriage. It covers any relationship in which you pick one partner, face each other directly, and work out a relationship of equals that will endure over time. The Seventh also signifies any relationship where you confront each other one-on-one or where you’re yoked together and asked to pull as a team.

To do this successfully, you need to adjust your own energies so that they find a balance with your partner’s, and neither person is dominated by the other. This means finding the right balance between self-assertion and compromise. To achieve happiness together, you need to deal with differences and resolve power struggles in a way that respects the rights and individuality of you both. Open communication is essential. There can be battles along the way, but the goal is an enduring relationship in which the two of you know each other thoroughly, each get your fair share, and develop mutual trust and respect.

Taurus is on your Seventh-House cusp.
Taurus on your Seventh cusp suggests that you may have a special need to share sensual pleasures with your partner. You may also enjoy your joint ownership of beautiful things, and practical considerations and possessions will probably figure large in your life together.

Indulging your senses together can be fun, but there’s a potential for problems if one of you gets too self-absorbed or self-indulgent without considering the other. If you’re the one who’s feeling neglected, never order your partner to think about your needs. That would be like waving a red flag in front of a bull, and it’ll produce the exact opposite of what you want. Instead, suggest two or three things that you’d like to do or to see happen, and let your partner choose among them. In this way, your partner gets to make the decision, and you’ll be satisfied as well.

If your partner is the one who seems unhappy, it could be that you’re the one who is doing the neglecting. To make your partner feel less taken for granted, plan some pleasurable activities that you can enjoy together. Putting special attention on designing something delicious for your partner may just become one of your own favorite delights!

Gemini is within the Seventh House.
With Gemini also in your Seventh House, you have an additional need for a partner who is sociable and has a variety of interests. It’s possible, however, that one or both of you could be a bit scattered or have a short attention span. If you find it hard to be focused in your discussions, divide your talks into short segments, with breaks for physical exercise or snacks, or possibly even a party. The ability to fit into many different types of groups is one of the qualities that attracted you, and watching your partner in action may remind you of your blessings.

Venus, the ruler of your Seventh House, is in the Eighth
In your chart the planet that is traditionally associated with the sign on your Seventh-House cusp is placed in the Eighth House. This suggests that you have a need to base your marriage on a deeper form of merging than mere partnership. This could mean a deeply emotional sexual union, or simply a great intensity of feeling between you. In addition, there could be a great deal of analyzing of each other’s hidden motives.

Possibly, also, your finances and possessions could be so tightly intertwined that you don’t have a sense that anything is entirely yours. Finding true happiness in marriage may depend on loosening your hold on what you felt were essential possessions, or essential parts of yourself. In letting these things go and pooling resources with your partner, you may find an emotional satisfaction that is of far greater value.

Your Jupiter is in the Seventh.
This placement is sometimes said to indicate that no matter how good an intimate relationship is, at some point it can become boring, so that the grass may begin to look greener on the other side of the fence. If this is accurate, you could have a series of partners, but there are other ways to play this. You might select a partner who is intelligent and can help you to develop as an individual, or possibly someone from a foreign country or culture who can teach you about customs different from your own.

It’s unlikely that you’ll ever want constant togetherness, however. You need your own personal interests. Nevertheless, you and your partner should share at least one interest through which you can jointly grow. Sharing everything in a relationship can become dull, but if you share nothing, there’s no reason to be together.

Entwining Souls
Ideally, in the Fifth House you gained a sense of who you are and who you want, and in the Seventh you learned how to enter into a partnership without sacrificing your individuality. In the Eighth House you’re called upon to surrender that self so as to merge with your partner fully.

This surrender commonly takes the form of sex, but it can be other forms of deep involvement as well. On a material level, it can mean pooling your possessions and finances. Essentially, this house is where you loosen your grasp on what you once thought necessary, and in doing so, merge into a deeper and larger self that goes beyond your own individuality.

The Seventh House allowed you to work out power struggles through open communication and adherence to the rules of fairness. Eighth- House power struggles are sneakier because they arise from unconscious depths. They often result in an attempt to force surrender rather than allow the other person to render it up freely. To resolve these struggles, you need to open yourself to your own deepest emotions and those of your partner. When emotion is respected and given its due in a non-violent way, Eighth-House struggles can eventually lead to relationships of enormous tenderness and depth.

Regarding sex, most people have more than one sign influencing their Eighth House, and many also have one or more planets in the Eighth. This multiplies possible avenues for sexual expression. Finding ways to combine all these energies can lead to the kind of sex that most satisfies you.

Gemini is on your Eighth-House cusp.
You will probably want some variety in your sex life. You could find this with a versatile sex partner, or by having more than one. If you get bored with a partner who always performs in the same manner, you might look elsewhere for new and interesting sexual experiences. That search could bring unnecessary complications into your life. An alternative to wandering would be to talk to your partner about your feelings. This might either bring about change in your physical sexual activities or suggest other new and interesting channels for pleasure.

The sign Cancer is within the Eighth House.
Though your first impulse is toward variety in sexual relations, there’s a part of you that also craves security. You need it, and you can provide it as well. You tend to mother your sexual partners, offering emotional more than financial security. In fact, food or making your partner feel comfortable could be an important part of your sexual ritual. You want some of this treatment also, so it’s best if you take turns mothering each other. If one partner does all the nurturing and gets nothing in return, emotional outbursts could interfere with your sex life. Making the nurturing reciprocal can result in sex that is both tender and highly satisfying.

Mercury, the ruler of your Eighth House, is in the Ninth
The placement of your Eighth-House ruler in the Ninth House suggests that you have a philosophical view of sex, or need a sexual partner who is philosophical or spiritual, or are turned on by those from a totally different country or background. Or you might seek out someone you can worship. A partner on a pedestal can, however, be unattainable, so you may not get the sexual gratification you seek. It’s best to look for someone with whom you can share your spirituality as an equal. You might also find that intellectual compatibility can lead to good sex.

Your Venus is in the Eighth.
Love and pleasure are a more than usually important part of your sex life, so that you probably enjoy an attractive partner and pleasant surroundings. Fidelity, however, is a non-issue with this placement, and responsibility may not be something you think about in regard to sex. Your main interest is the pleasure. If your partner mistreats you or you’re otherwise not happy and comfortable in your sex life, you may not feel obligated to stay in the relationship. As long as the pleasure lasts, however, you could go on indefinitely.

Your Pluto is in the Eighth.
In sex, your passions tend to run deep, and when all is going well, your gratification can be strong. It’s possible, however, that power issues could interfere. You want a strong partner, but if anyone is going to be in control, you want it to be you. You might be concerned that your partner could manipulate you in sexual matters. Or, if you’re suspicious of your partner’s motivations, you could become so obsessed that it interferes with your sex life. Either way, instead of stewing about it, bring the problem into the open. Through discussion, you can release the resentment, and then return to the deep, all-involving sex that is the gift of Pluto in the Eighth.

How You See John
No matter how objective you think you are, the way you see others is always affected by your own necessarily limited point of view. Becoming conscious of your own possible biases in viewing your partner can often be very helpful in in overcoming misunderstandings and in avoiding thwarted expectations.

One of the main things that will describe your own personal way of seeing John is the way his planets fall into the houses in your own chart. The houses show how the heavens looked from the spot on earth where you were born. Not only do they provide the framework through which you experience your own planets, they also provide the structure through which you’ll view John’s planets as well.

When one of John’s planets falls into a particular house in your chart, you will tend to associate his expression of that planetary energy with the department of life represented by that house. This may or may not agree with how he views that planetary energy in hisself.

Looking at it another way, you could think of John’s planets as “lighting up” your houses, bringing additional energy to the areas of life that those houses deal with. By filling in the empty houses in your chart, he may make you feel more complete. By adding planets to your already-filled houses, he can further emphasize those areas of existence. By adding different planets to a house, he can introduce new possibilities into those areas of your life. Besides suggesting how you will experience John and how you will feel about him, looking at his planets will suggest the functions that John will tend to take on in your total scheme of things.

Houses, of course, divide the chart into twelve specific areas. Before getting into that much detail, we can check out your overall perception of John simply by the way his planets are clustered in the main areas of your chart.
The fact that more of John’s planets fall into the right-hand half of your chart suggests that you tend to view him primarily as a responder. You may not expect him to take the initiative, and you could see him as slow or indecisive when initiative and decisiveness are necessary. You might think that if you left taking action to him, you’d never do anything as a couple. You might therefore do things like accept invitations or set your social calendar without consulting with this partner.

With more of John’s planets falling into the top half of your chart, you tend to see him as more extraverted, adjusting to the world and needing its approval. Depending on how the planets are distributed around his own horoscope wheel, he may or may not actually be that way. Simply because of your expectations or from interaction with you, he may try to be more extraverted, while deep down he looks to an inner standard and values self-approval and self-motivation more than the values of the outside world. With you, he may try to conform to what’s expected, but you may have different ideas of what conforming means. Chances are, he’s really trying. Remember this, and if you still wish to change the way he behaves, try a bit of flattery before you criticize.

How John Affects Specific Areas of Your Life
For more detailed information, let’s now look at specific planets in specific houses. The houses that will probably be most important in forming your view of John are those that contain his Sun and Moon.

John’s Sun is in your Seventh House.
You’ll probably experience John as warm and outgoing, particularly in your relationship. When the two of you are with close friends, however, you may see him as more visible than you. You might well bask in the light of his personality and enjoy other people’s perception of him , but it’s also possible to develop an inferiority complex because you believe that he outshines you. You might even become resentful because you feel that he is self-centered and hogs the limelight. If you remember that this is your subjective opinion, you can more actively participate, and you may discover that you can shine just as brightly as your partner.

John’s Moon is in your Tenth House.
You might find that John is emotionally supportive of your career, or of your role in the world in general. If this is the case, you know that you can find comfort in talking to him about your problems at work, or any other difficulties that you have interacting in the outer world. If you’re nurtured when you arrive home, coping with the world at large can be easy to tolerate.

However, if your partner envies or feels competitive with your professional life, you could feel undermined rather than supported, and there may be emotional outbursts. To turn this form of behavior into tenderness, try giving him some extra nurturing. When he knows that you care, he might not feel so threatened by you or your role in the world.

John’s Mercury is in your Seventh House.
You probably perceive John as a person who can communicate well on the social scene. He may never seem at a loss for words and can chat about almost any subject, at least for a short period of time. For longer conversations, or deeper ones, you may have to look elsewhere. But there are definite advantages to this placement. One is that you always have something to say to each other. Another is that you know that your partner can fit in with anyone he chooses. If you want to discuss serious and/or deep subjects with your partner, do it in small doses. For example, you can talk about and resolve a problem, but it’s best done in several short conversations instead of one long one.

John’s Venus is in your Seventh House.
You see John as charming and attractive, and probably bask in his affection. The only problem might be that others do also, to the point where they find him too desirable. If this happens, it will help to show lots of affection for him not only in private, but also when you’re out in public (remembering to be tasteful, of course!). Then he may feel loved to the point where he won’t be tempted to look elsewhere, and others will understand that he’s yours.

John’s Mars is in your Seventh House.
You may feel that John is the director of your relationship, either making most of the decisions or continually pushing you to take action. If you are the type who hesitates when making decisions, you might enjoy someone else taking charge. Even then, however, you wouldn’t want to be pushed too much or too often, nor would you want decisions to be made without your input. That could make you feel like a non- entity in the partnership, and could make you very angry. One way to deal with this is to take care to offer your opinion on matters that are important to you even when you’re not asked. If that doesn’t work and you feel resentment building up, openly discuss it with your partner right then and there. Then, together you can actively work out ways in which you can cooperate in the decision-making process.

John’s Jupiter is in your Seventh House.
You probably see John as optimistic and fun-loving, someone who can bring cheer to you and others who are close to you. You may also experience his thoughtful, philosophical nature and feel that he’s responsible for any growth that the two of you experience as a couple. On the other hand, you may think that he spends too much time playing, or has wonderful ideas that never materialize. A bit of this is probably tolerable because it’s balanced by the pleasure that he brings. But if it outweighs the pleasure, you could begin to wonder if there’s any substance to the relationship. If you start to feel this way, concentrate on developing a single project that the two of you can share. That will enable you to enjoy your partner’s buoyant side while providing some needed stability, and your growth as a couple is likely to get back on track.

John’s Saturn is in your Ninth House.
In your discussions together, John may show some very definite opinions about religion, politics, education and/or distant travel. You may well feel that he has something to teach you about any or all of these subjects, and as long as you feel that you’re learning, there should be no problems. Alternatively, however, you may feel that he is dogmatic and tries to force you to accept his opinions. He may seem like such an authority and always sound so logical that he always wins. Instead of engaging in combat, convince him to take on a commitment in some Ninth-House area -- for example, assume an active role in a church, work for a political party, sign up for or teach a course, or make the arrangements for your next trip. Taking on responsibility will absorb some of that Saturn energy so that he will have less of an impulse to bombard you with ideas that you disagree with.

John’s Uranus is in your Third House.
You could find John an exciting conversationalist, someone who expresses unusual or creative ideas. While interesting, some of these ideas may sound somewhat strange and possibly ahead of their time. If they seem too bizarre, don’t worry. John could change his mind very rapidly and even forget what he previously said.

You may also experience a spontaneity about his verbal skills that gives him an effortless ability to ad lib. Such ready comebacks may be made with little thought, so that they sometimes come off as tactless. If you confront your partner with what he’s said, however, he’ll probably be quick to modify his the tactless remarks.

John’s Neptune is in your Ninth House.
John’s Neptune here may add to the spiritual, compassionate, and imaginative element in your philosophy of life. John will increase your tendency to go beyond conventional religion and points of view and instead follow an inner source of guidance that is beyond words. he may also tend to soften your more entrenched views and make you more tolerant. Together you may share romantic ideas about travel, such that you travel (most probably by sea or air) in search of a dream or a spiritual experience.

It’s also possible that John’s philosophical or religious ideas may confuse you, or make you more confused about your own views on life. True, you might be led astray by an unrealistic belief system, but if you’re uncomfortable with his or your own life philosophy, it’s more likely that you’re just trying too hard to be rational. Perhaps it’s time to open yourself to the validity of that which lies beyond reason.

John’s Pluto is in your Eighth House.
You may have a sexual attraction to John that feels deeply involving and transforming, so that there is a great deal of passion between you. At times, this may feel almost too intense to bear, and so there’s the possibility that one or both of you could back off and insulate yourself from this almost scary force. Then, you may feel frozen, and the deep feelings that you have for each other may erupt in strange ways such as anger, fear, great sadness, inability to have sex, or attempts to gain power over each other. Turning off sexually or playing power games would certainly detract from your closeness.

If either of you feels that this is occurring, try to bring it out into the open. Also, little by little, allow yourselves to feel your intense feelings for each other even when they seem a bit frightening or overwhelming. You could seek out a safe space to do this -- for example, in story, fantasy or art, or as a game in which you are safely contained by rules, or in therapy with therapist who maintains the usual therapeutic conventions. Let your feelings be pushed only to the brink of what you can feel, and then fully savor them, along with the attendant feelings of anger, hatred, love, fear or whatever else comes up. You don’t have to act on these feelings, just feel them to the point where you demonstrate to yourself that you can have them without destroying either you or your relationship. As you little by little open yourself to these intense emotions, you’ll also feel the intensity of love that you have for each other, and you can know the true entwining of souls that this combination promises.

For John: Your Style of Relating
To figure out your own personal relationship needs, we’re first going to look at your basic personality type with both its strengths and its weak points. This can show what you have to contribute, and what you need from someone else. The better you know your own nature, the more successful you’ll be in your relationships. You can more easily make allowances for your own blind spots, and you can more consciously select a partner who will bring you happiness.

You have few or no planets in Fire signs or houses.
The overall lack of Fire symbolism in your chart indicates that it may not be easy for you to take the initiative, or to show your enthusiasm and excitement. To awaken your zest for life and get you started, you may need someone to light a fire under you. However, you need someone who can give you a gentle nudge without being overly aggressive. People who are too energetic or assertive may make you feel uncomfortable. On the other hand, those who are too passive may not help you to improve your state of mind and accomplish your goals. Just a little nudge will do.

Your Sun is in Gemini.
Your Sun in Gemini reinforces the idea that you’re pretty versatile. Most likely, you can easily do more than one thing at a time. In fact, you might find it hard to concentrate on any one thing for very long. Needing variety, you may not take the time to probe deeply into your interest of the moment. Fortunately, you’re a quick study and can form an accurate overview of a subject almost instantly. You may not understand the subject in depth, but you’ll know enough for your own purposes. Your motto might be, “If you can’t learn it fast, it probably isn’t worth knowing.”

This talent can be extended to people. You’re basically sociable, and can determine the essence of an individual or a group almost instantaneously and fit in right away, if you so choose. This skill can be useful. Even if you find yourself with people who are trained in a technical field you know nothing about, you quickly pick up the group’s jargon and can seem as knowledgeable as they are. The secret of your success is that you leave the room before you exhaust your newly-learned vocabulary. This suits you, because you would probably become bored if you hung around for too long.

In terms of a partner, you’d do well with someone who’s also sociable, and you’d probably like a good sense of humor, too. Then you can rest assured that you can interact as a couple without concern about the impression you make. You will also not have to worry about being saddled all evening with your partner. You can each flit around the gathering on your own and have stories to share when you return home.

With little patience for slow-thinking people, you’d also want a partner who’s mentally agile. Not necessarily a mental giant, just someone who can carry on a light, pleasant conversation and follow the gist of what you have to say. This may not be as easy as it sounds, because you may tend to jump from subject to subject and even occasionally omit words. While you may not like being interrupted by questions, it’s OK for your partner to add an occasional word or expand upon an idea you’ve expressed. That can be considered brainstorming, and you welcome such contributions. You have little desire, however, for lengthy and profound intellectual conversations.

The fact that you enjoy social interaction and like to keep your conversations light doesn’t mean that your entire life has to be superficial. You simply need to include these sorts of diversions for release and relief, and to contribute to the diversity that is your essence.

Your Moon is in Virgo.
You’re probably not very emotionally demonstrative, to the point where you may not feel permission to express your feelings unless you’ve got a practical reason to do so. Should you be unhappy on a particular day and not be sure why, you might try seeing a sad movie or renting a sad video. This will give you a reason to cry, and you’ll be able to vent your feelings without embarrassment.

One common way people avoid expressing emotions is by becoming critical of others. If you’re picking on someone, you have a reason for not showing tenderness. This behavior may have originated from a mother who criticized you as a child (and who might even criticize you now) -- someone who said things like “I want you to be the best person you can be” or “I’m only telling you this for your own good.” Then, as an adult, you yourself may become critical of others, or seek out a partner who will carry on your mother’s critical function toward you. While you might feel miserable about it, it might also feel homey and somehow right.

Even if your mother was critical, you probably also knew you that could count on her. Or maybe your mother wasn’t critical at all, but instead was just hard-working and supportive of you. You, too, are likely to have an ability to work hard and to give support to others.

So, while you’re hardly gushy, you can be very helpful in a practical way. When you make a commitment, you tend to stand by it so that your friends and partners have confidence that you’ll come through for them. You’re also probably good at giving practical suggestions to help people to make their ideas materialize. You don’t want to take over from others, but you can help them a great deal by working out the details of a plan of action and analyzing its practical implications. If there are flaws in the plan, you can usually pinpoint them and suggest workable alternatives.

If you find yourself unhappily caught up in criticizing or being criticized, try diverting this energy into giving this sort of practical assistance to others. You’ll probably feel a lot happier if you make a bit of an effort to hold your tongue, and instead concentrate on serving other people and making the world a more efficient and orderly place.

It may also be hard to let the feelings flow freely in your intimate relationships. When you’re secure with a partner, you’ll be able to show your emotions more readily. You still may have to work on this a bit more by convincing yourself that being emotional is appropriate in intimate situations. When you discover that certain responses on your part bring certain rewards, you may start to feel less inhibited and ultimately become more demonstrative and emotionally fulfilled.

Your Axis of Relationship
And now we get to your “axis of relationship” -- your Ascendant (or rising sign) and, directly opposite it, your Descendant. Together, these say a great deal about how you relate. While your Ascendant describes the way you present yourself to others, the Descendant tells the other side of the story. It suggests the sort of partner you’ll be drawn to and who will make you feel more complete.
If the birth time for your chart is accurate, you have Libra rising. This means that one-to-one may be your favorite way of relating, and that having a partner is high on your list of priorities. You operate best when you have a partner who’s your equal -- someone with whom you can converse and share your ideas and experiences. Also, because you need peace and harmony, you may bend over backwards to please that significant other in your life.

Strangely, the partners you’re drawn to will tend to be independent and even bossy. They may also seem argumentative, and in their rush to do their own thing they may forget the rights and feelings of others. This is because they’re acting out a side of you that you tend to suppress. Before you become upset by them, remember that they can be an asset when the world requires more assertion and adventurousness than it’s natural for you to muster.

Actually, your Libra-rising attributes make you ideally suited to dealing with such partners. Your urge for fairness and equality will tend to keep your partner from running over you rough-shod. While you can be generous to a partner, it won’t be to the point of total self-sacrifice. Something inside you objectively notes when you’ve done enough and it’s time to restore the balance between you. Also, your objectivity and your penchant for intellectual debate will make it possible for you to air your differences openly and hammer out a fair solution to them.

To deal with a partner’s possibly hot temper, you have the advantage of your charm, diplomacy and inclination to resort to reason. This, and your desire for peace, would tend to stop you from displaying anger or making forceful demands. You’ll probably be not only more comfortable but also more convincing if you use these innate social talents. In these cases it’s possible that your partner could comply without even recognizing what you’re doing or consciously knowing what you want.

If you don’t get what you want quickly, it may be due less to your partner’s resistance than to your own lack of decisiveness. Actually, although you may not view it that way, when you need to make up your mind, it can be advantageous to have a direct and forceful partner. However, because an equal relationship is so important to you, you could resent it when your partner takes charge.

If this is causing a rift between you, consider the facts objectively. From your partner’s perspective you may seem totally inert, and he or she may be making decisions for you simply out of impatience with your seeming procrastination. Recognizing your contribution to the situation may help you to remedy it, or at least make you see things from your partner’s point of view so that you feel less angry.

You may be able to regain equality in your relationship by striving to make decisions faster. Or you could appreciate your partner’s taking charge because it takes the pressure off you. No matter which route you follow, note that, because of your relationship, you are probably accomplishing much more than you’d ever have accomplished by yourself.

Dating and Romance
To see what you specifically want and need in romance, partnership and sex, we’re now going to look at these areas of your chart in detail.

We’ll start where relationships begin -- in the house of courtship, love affairs and romance. This is the Fifth House, which, interestingly, is also associated with risk-taking. Not surprising when you consider that romance is often where you have to take the plunge and throw yourself open to chance! Will Mr./Ms. Right cross your path at the mixer dance or singles bar? Will you gather your courage to ask someone out on a date? Will that blind date be a delight or a disaster? This is just part of the reason that the Fifth is the place where love relationships begin.

Once you’ve started to date, the Fifth House’s recreational side emerges. Fifth-House activities like dinner out, plays and movies, museums and sports provide a pleasurable atmosphere to encourage a budding acquaintance to flower into something more. Sometimes called the house of self-expression, the Fifth also rules self-display, as you each put on your finest feathers to attract the other. Dating in the Fifth leads to marriage in the Seventh House and sex in the Eighth, and then the cycle begins again with children, which are also shown by the Fifth House and its association with self-expression and play.

There are a number of different signs and planets associated with your relationship houses, and each of these contributes its own symbolic themes to that area of your life. The more that you both try to express the various qualities that are symbolized in these key relationship areas of your charts, the happier and more complete your relationship is likely to feel.

Aquarius is on your Fifth-House cusp.
For you, romance is strongly connected with friendly social exchange. You may fall in love with someone who is in your circle of friends, or you may go out on double dates or consider group activities to be one of your favorite ways of having fun together. Conversation is likely to be your favorite form of flirting.

There may also be something oddball in your romances. One-of-a-kind romantic partners may have a special appeal, or in your courtship you may like to defy convention. At any rate, you need to express your own individuality, and you don’t like to bend to the will of your partner. Indeed, you require a certain a degree of detachment and objectivity, so that each of you remains a distinct individual.

Pisces is within the Fifth House.
If you’re sufficiently able to establish your independence in the relationship, at some point in your courtship you’ll feel an urge to merge. You may have started by evaluating your relationship objectively, but eventually you’re flooded with romantic feelings which you want the other person to reciprocate. Fantasizing more about your romance, you may start to idealize your partner unrealistically, or you may make some self-sacrificing gesture that only embarrasses the other. If your partner is not behaving according to your ideal, it can be easy to delude yourself that all is well when it isn’t. If all does go well, however, fantasy and imagination can bring an unparalleled richness and tenderness to your romance, and you may feel yourself merging on an exalted level of emotion.

Saturn, the ruler of your Fifth House, is in the Tenth
The planet that’s traditionally associated with the sign on the Fifth-House cusp brings in additional considerations. Placed in the Tenth House, it means that for you there’s a connection between courtship and the outer world. Public opinion may be important to you, and so you don’t tend to hide your romantic partners in a closet. So that you can be proud to be seen with them, you may be attracted to those who are successful and/or look good. Without the judgment of others, however, you can see these people realistically. Even if there are other indications in your chart that you don’t always view a romantic partner realistically, ultimately the truth of the real world seeps in. You might find yourself sometimes wishing for more excitement in this area, but excitement or romance without a degree of security will not be satisfying to you.

You don’t have any planets in your Fifth House. All this means is that dating and romance may take a less crucial role in your life than they might for someone else. The good thing is that your requirements are less specific, so that you can select from a wider range of potential playmates.

Becoming Partners
Through the pleasures, risk-taking and self-expression signified by the Fifth House, you gain a sense of your own individuality and develop a robust identity of your own. You need this before you can have the true relationship of equals that is the essence of the Seventh House.

Traditionally the house of marriage, Seventh House signifies the way you make a serious commitment to another, and the way that your commitment is recognized in the social sphere beyond your relationship. Even when your relationship doesn’t result in marriage, this is the house where you learn to blend your individualities without submerging them, and, for better or for worse, to deal as a team with the ups and downs of life. It’s also the place of head-to-head confrontations, where you encounter both your similarities and your differences, and you each negotiate your fair share in disputes.

Aries is on your Seventh-House cusp.
You tend to seek out a partner who is assertive and shows initiative. But while you admire those who can take charge, you don’t want to be bossed around. At times you may want to take the lead yourself. This could provoke heated disagreements, and you may then wish for some peace and quiet. However, you’d be bored if your life together were too peaceful. You’d also have little respect for a partner who didn’t stand his or her ground and allowed you to be the sole decision-maker.

Actively discussing alternatives may make you each feel that you’re sharing the leadership in the relationship. You might decide that one of you should be in charge on some types of issues, and on other issues the other should run the show. You might actively negotiate still other issues. If your discussions make either of you extremely angry, you could more easily make compromises if you walk and talk rather than sit and glare at each other.

Taurus is within the Seventh House.
You also need a partner with whom you can share sensual pleasures. Problems can arise when one of you is being totally self-absorbed and self-indulgent without considering the other. If you’re feeling neglected, never order your partner to think about your needs. That would be like waving a red flag in front of a bull, and it’ll produce the exact opposite of what you want. Instead, suggest two or three things that you’d like to do or to see happen, and allow your partner to choose among them. In this way, your partner will have made the decision, and you’ll be satisfied as well. If you feel that you’re the one who’s been taking the other for granted, and your partner seems unhappy, plan some pleasurable activities that you can enjoy together. Practical considerations and possessions can figure large in your life together, and you may enjoy your joint ownership of beautiful things.

Mars, the ruler of your Seventh House, is in the Eighth
In your chart the planet that is traditionally associated with the sign on your Seventh-House cusp is placed in the Eighth House. This suggests that you have a need to base your marriage on a deeper form of merging than mere partnership. This could mean a deeply emotional sexual union, or simply a great intensity of feeling between you. In addition, there could be a great deal of analyzing of each other’s hidden motives.

Every planet that a person has in the Seventh House would indicate at least one additional requirement for them in a close one-to-one relationship. You have no planets here, however. For you, close partnerships may not be the all-consuming concern that they might be to someone who has a full Seventh House. This means that you could actually have an easier time finding a marriage partner. Your requirements in a partner are apt to be looser, and so you can be open to a greater variety of people.

Entwining Souls
Joined into a single entity in the Seventh House, you become ready to transform each other in the Eighth. To do this, you need to relax your grip on whatever you felt necessary to maintain yourselves as separate individuals. Then you need to take a leap of faith, and trust that the essentially benevolent forces of life will pull you through. If you emerge from this trial successfully, you will be transformed and renewed.

This, of course, is the essence of sex, which is one of the areas that the Eighth House stands for. The Eighth also depicts the other sorts of deep emotional bonds that arise in relationships, as you shed the shells of your individuality to merge into a larger whole. On a material level, the Eighth depicts the merging of property and finances, where you each need to give up what is yours and contribute it to the common pool.

With the high emotional intensity of the Eighth House and its lack of objectivity, power struggles are possible. Any impulse to do harm must always be contained. The key lies in developing compassion for your own emotional state, in letting go of tightly held positions, and then inviting powers out of your conscious control to lead you in the right direction.

Regarding your sexual self, all the signs and planets influencing your Eighth House describe possible avenues for sexual expression. Combining or alternating these themes will keep you from falling into stale and confining routines.

Taurus is on your Eighth-House cusp.
Sensual enjoyments are very important to you, and you’re likely to savor every moment of such experiences. Moreover, you’re loyal to your partner and expect loyalty in return. Since you tend to be habit-oriented in this area of your life, if there is a change in the routine, you could begin to question your partner’s trustworthiness. Then jealousy and possessiveness could enter the picture and disrupt your sex life.

If this happens, together you should reestablish your routine. It also will help if your partner shows that he or she cares. Practical evidence of devotion may be preferable to physical or emotional demonstrativeness. Showering you with gifts could produce the desired results more quickly than a hug or a kiss.

Gemini is within the Eighth House.
Though you may start by being routine-oriented, at some point you’ll probably want some variety in your sex life. You might find this with a versatile sex partner, or by having more than one. If you’re bored with a partner who always performs in the same manner, you might look elsewhere for new and interesting sexual experiences. That search could bring unnecessary complications into your life. An alternative to wandering would be to talk to your partner about your feelings. This might either bring about change in your physical sexual activities or suggest other new and interesting channels for pleasure.

Venus, the ruler of your Eighth House, is in the Eighth
The placement of your Eighth-House ruler in your Eighth House amplifies the importance of sex in your life. It also suggests that sex might operate independently from other facets of your relationships. For example, you could have a sexually satisfying partner who is otherwise hard to get along with, or a wonderful partner who does not excite you sexually. In the first case, you might avoid each other except at bedtime, or find a counselor to help you analyze and solve your other problems. In the second case, keep in mind that a truly congenial partner can be hard to replace. You might try sex therapy, or look for other ways of expressing the Eighth House, such as through finances or research.

Your Sun is in the Eighth.
This placement greatly heightens the importance of sex (as well as other intense experiences) in your life. You want to be an active participant in sex, not a passive observer. You want to be appreciated by your sexual partner, and need to retain your sense of identity. If sexual problems arise, it could impact your sense of self, so that you believe that there is something seriously wrong with you. Remember that it takes two to have a sexual relationship. As well as not taking all the credit for the successes, don’t take complete blame for the failures. Sex is a joint effort, and you should be able to work out the solution to problems together. If you can share the responsibility, your sex life will improve and the other parts of your relationship will strengthen also.

Your Mercury is in the Eighth.
Communications tend to be an integral part of your sex life. You may particularly enjoy thinking, writing or talking about sex. If talking is the route you choose, you may talk about sex in general, talk while you’re having sex, or talk about it afterwards. And if your partner finds all that talk annoying, you’ll probably find it easy to discuss the matter. Your conversations may not be deeply analytical, but through your discussions you may be able to come up with other ways to express your Mercury that are more acceptable to your partner.

Your Mars is in the Eighth.
Either you take the lead in sex, or you like an aggressive partner who will do so. There’s also a lot of energy between you. If all is going well, your sex life may be very active; but if you have problems, you may have arguments that get really heated. If the anger seems stronger than the passion, you might want to think about how gratifying this really is for you. If you’re both happy with the arrangement, fine, but if one or both of you suffers from those angry scenes, you might want to get counseling, set some ground rules together, or channel that energy into doing intense sports or work.

Your Jupiter is in the Eighth.
You tend to view sex as a liberating experience, a way of growing and expanding your horizons. Even while being basically conventional, you may enjoy exploring new methods. You need a sex partner who can share in the development with you, helping you to grow in this area. If your partner doesn’t supply this, you may roam in search of others who are more interesting. If you’re really enjoying yourself in sex, however, you’re likely to stay with one.

How You See Jacqueline
To see how you experience Jacqueline, what she means to you personally, and the biases you may have when dealing with this important person in your life, we’re now going to look at the way her planets fit into the houses of your birth chart.

You could think of Jacqueline’s planets as “lighting up” your houses, bringing more energy to the areas of life that those houses deal with. Her planets can activate underactive areas of your life, making you feel more complete. Or they may increase the activity in areas that that are already emphasized in your own chart. They may repeat problematic themes in your horoscope so that you’re finally forced to deal with them, or give you the added push to make the most of assets that you already have. All this influences the way you feel about her, and suggests the functions that she will take on in your life.

First, however, before looking at specific houses and planets, it can be revealing just to look at the overall way Jacqueline’s planets are grouped around your chart wheel.
With more of Jacqueline’s planets falling into the top half of your chart, you tend to see her as more extraverted, adjusting to the world and needing its approval. Depending on how the planets are distributed around her own horoscope wheel, she may or may not actually be that way. Simply because of your expectations or from interaction with you, she may try to be more extraverted, while deep down she looks to an inner standard and values self-approval and self-motivation more than the values of the outside world. With you, she may try to conform to what’s expected, but you may have different ideas of what conforming means. Chances are, she’s really trying. Remember this, and if you still wish to change the way she behaves, try a bit of flattery before you criticize.
Jacqueline’s planets are quite equally distributed between the right-hand and left-hand sides of your chart. This means that you probably see her as able to be both an initiator and responder. The advantage of this is that you’ll feel neither the necessity always to take charge, nor the expectation that your partner will always do so. The disadvantage is not knowing when you should initiate and when you should respond.

To deal with this, you may always follow your partner’s lead, or always try to take the lead yourself. A better course is to consciously decide who’s in charge of what, and have each of you doing the decision-making in a different area. It’s also helpful to consult frequently, so that each of you is advised of the decisions and plans that the other has made.

How Jacqueline Affects Specific Areas of Your Life
And now for particular planets in particular houses. Pay special attention to the houses that contain Jacqueline’s Sun and Moon, because these are likely to represent focal areas in your relationship with her.

Jacqueline’s Sun is in your Tenth House.
You’re likely to admire the image that Jacqueline projects on the world. This impression may be connected with your own career or with your own social interaction with society at large. If you’re in business together, you might want to make Jacqueline the one who meets the clients or publicly represents the company. If you’re not in business together, your partner can still make you look good. If your horoscope indicates that you need to stand on your own merits, you can either feel insecure about needing her to stand up for you, or you can together figure out ways to stand on the world stage as a duo.

Jacqueline’s Moon is in your Seventh House.
One of the qualities you were probably attracted to in Jacqueline was nurturing. You may share an emotional closeness, and enjoy the tender, loving care that she is capable of bestowing upon you. Sometimes, though, this placement gives either emotional inconsistency or more attentiveness than you bargained for, so that you feel smothered instead of mothered. This could happen because your partner feels insecure. Give her more mothering, and, in return, she could become less smothering and more emotionally stable.

Jacqueline’s Mercury is in your Tenth House.
Jacqueline could have a lot to say about your career, which may be simply a display of interest, or advice on what you should do. As long as there’s not a lot of criticism, it can be good to have someone to discuss your work with. You and she could also be in business together, and you might see her as an asset in the communications department. And generally when you’re interacting with the outer world , you might feel that your partner is an asset because of her ability to socialize. The only difficulty might be that she could be too talkative. If this is so, you should be able to discuss the situation, and perhaps this will help.

Jacqueline’s Venus is in your Ninth House.
You may take special pleasure in discussing the big questions of life with Jacqueline. You could, however, feel that she tends to steer away from what’s controversial, and softens her opinions in order to be more pleasant. While this could remove some of the excitement and genuineness from your conversations, it can also come in handy in social situations where tact is needed. Especially if you’re the type who has strongly held viewpoints, it can help to have a partner who will make them more palatable to others.

The subjects that you most enjoy discussing may have to do with love, manners, social niceties, art, fashion, or whatever makes something beautiful. You might even cause each other to take courses in such fields, or join together to teach, publish or otherwise disseminate knowledge about these subjects. You may also like to travel together, particularly if it’s to socialize, indulge yourselves in pleasure, or witness beautiful scenery or art.

Jacqueline’s Mars is in your Eleventh House.
Through Jacqueline’s energies, you’ll probably have more of a social life, because either her impetus or something about her spurs you to join groups and pay more attention to friends. You may see her as someone who can motivate and energize groups of people, and in fact she may find it easier to do this when she’s with you. She may also spur you on to realize your hopes and wishes, or to derive extra income from your career. She could give you just the bit of extra drive that you need to attain these things.

All this can feel very good to you -- as long as the heat and impulsive quality of this planet stay properly harnessed. With a Mars in overdrive, your partner could pick fights with your friends, or get bossy, nagging or generally obnoxious in any of the above areas. If you find that this becomes a problem, you can restore some harmony in your relationship by redirecting all that hot energy toward some constructive end. Encouraging her to play sports with friends, join athletic groups, spearhead work toward a cause, or accomplish some Herculean task with others could well absorb the jagged edges of the Mars energy. Then, what’s left of it can just add a bit of welcome spice to your life. If you feel nagged to make more money or to actualize your dreams, letting your partner do some of the work toward reaching these goals can stop the nagging and harness some of that excess steam to the advantage of you both.

Jacqueline’s Jupiter is in your Eighth House.
Jacqueline may bring new ideas and/or more pleasure to your sex life -- or may simply seem to have an insatiable sexual appetite! If you’re enjoying yourself, fine. If you’re overwhelmed, you can try channeling these energies in other directions. You could have philosophical conversations about sex or other Eighth-House matters such as transformation, joint resources, or other people’s resources. Who knows? Such discussions might improve your sex life, transform either or both of you, give you ideas as to how you can expand your shared resources, or lead you to pick a winning lottery number.

Jacqueline’s Saturn is in your Third House.
Communicating with Jacqueline may be a serious issue in your relationship. You could feel that she’s hard to reach, or that you’re limited in what you can say to her, because she doesn’t listen to you or doesn’t seem to understand what you’re talking about. Or perhaps you feel intimidated, because you believe that she speaks as an authority and is always trying to tell you how and what to think. You may end up finding it easier just to keep quiet. It may help to put your thoughts into writing. Try to be clear, concise and honest in what you write, and this will clarify your thoughts. You will then be able to speak with your partner in a style that she can understand. She may not only start to listen to you, but may be more understanding as well.

Jacqueline’s Uranus is in your Sixth House.
In your life together, you may find that Jacqueline balks at too much of a daily routine, and that she requires frequent breaks. This could keep your life together quite fresh and exciting. Also, her desire to break free now and then could actually lead to innovative and even fun ways to get the necessary jobs of life over with and done.

However, problems could arise if you get to feel that she can’t be depended upon. If you feel that this area of your life together needs a bit more regularity and order, you could work out a schedule together. Just remember that forcing a schedule on her or trying to make her feel guilty will probably just increase her resistance. She’ll be a lot happier doing tasks if they seem like an intellectual challenge, a creative venture, or a step forward for humanity. And the faster the tasks get done, the better. Then there will be more time for soul-feeding breaks in the routine.

Jacqueline’s Neptune is in your Eleventh House.
If Jacqueline is involved in humanitarian causes, you could see her as a savior in the group, one who takes the side of the underdog or victim. In such a case, you could put her on a pedestal and view her as a hero. At social gatherings, you might feel either that she has a certain glamour and charisma, or that she fades into the background and isn’t noticed at all. She may be sometimes one way, and sometimes the other, so that you’re never sure which side will emerge in a given group.

Jacqueline’s Pluto is in your Ninth House.
Merely because she’s active in one of these areas, you may see Jacqueline as influential in the area of religion, politics or higher education. You may even see her as an authority on any or all of these subjects without any active involvement on her part. And if you both belong to something like a church or a political party, you may feel that she is a leader in this area whether or not you agree with her ideas. If your views are different, you might consider yourself the expert and feel that she is trying to cram invalid ideas down your throat in a loud and pushy way. If your discussions get too unpleasant, you could simply avoid these subjects, or take a long trip together. If you go to faraway places, she might still tend to take charge, but at least you’ll get to see new scenery.

The Dynamics between the Two of You
Now we’re ready to look at some typical kinds of dramas that can play out between you. These are suggested by the way the planets in one person’s chart relate to those in the other.

The different planets in your chart are like little characters who are interacting with each other inside your psyche. They also interact with the little characters inside other people. For example, Mars, the little warrior inside you, could be having a hot and heavy affair with your partner’s sultry, come-hither Venus. This could take the form either of cozying up in bed together, or fighting most of the time. Or these two little characters could be constantly on each other’s mind, but somehow at cross-purposes or never quite on each other’s wavelength. The basic quality of each planet, plus the aspect, or kind of angle, that is formed between them, determines how well those parts of the psyche will get along with each other, and what the nature of their alliance or conflict will be.

Below, the aspects between your charts are arranged roughly in order of how important they’ll be to you personally. Take special note whenever you see aspects involving the same pairs of planets next to each other in the list. If you see, for example, not only your Venus conjunct your partner’s Mars, but also your partner’s Mars making an aspect to your Venus, you can be sure that Venus-Mars themes such as sex, or some other sort of very creative, productive activity, will be of overriding importance in your life together.

Because we’re dealing with double the number of planets here, the number of possible aspects is greatly increased. We’ll therefore consider only the interaspects that are quite exact.

Meshing Your Personalities and Goals
Aspects involving your Ascendant or Midheaven depend not only on the day you were born, but also on the exact time. They therefore make you different from most others born on the same day, and have a particularly personal significance.

The Ascendant is the place where a planet would rise from the inner realm below the horizon to the outer world above. As such, it symbolizes the interface between the inner you and the outside world. This is your personality -- the face you put on, your body and manner, your habitual way of dealing with others.

The Midheaven is the highest point a planet can go in your chart. As you might expect, it signifies the most universally visible part of you -- your career goals, your most public self and your reputation. Aspects involving the Midheaven of one or both partners can therefore be among the most powerful indicators of how one partner relates to the other’s reputation, career and overall life direction.

Because the Ascendant and Midheaven move so fast (on average, a whole degree in only four minutes of time) their correct positions depend on whether you know your birth time accurately. Aspects between these points and your partner’s horoscope can say very important things about your relationship. If you’re unsure of your birth time, however, it’s best to take any interpretations of aspects from your Ascendant and Midheaven with a grain of salt.

Jacqueline’s Moon is opposite John’s Ascendant.
There’s a strong personal tie and attraction between you, but there’s also a possibility that Jacqueline could overwhelm John with emotion, or the face that John puts on for the world could interfere with Jacqueline’s emotional satisfaction.

To deal with these problems, you each need to find a way to take care of your own personal needs while balancing them with the needs of your partner. For example, Jacqueline shouldn’t always depend on John to meet her needs for closeness and nurturing. Sometimes she should give John a bit of emotional support, especially if he’s having problems with his appearance, health or relations with others.

For his part, John should find a few arenas in addition to this relationship where he can relate to people and express his personality. At the same time, he should always be ready to support Jacqueline’s emotional needs when needed.

If you do things like this to nurture both yourself and your partner, you’ll help each other to become stronger and more confident individuals. This can only benefit your relationship.

Jacqueline’s Venus is trine John’s Ascendant.
While you and your partner are attracted to each other, you don’t just sit back and enjoy the relationship -- you want to help your partner enjoy life even more. One way you make your partner happier is by showing your appreciation through generosity and indulgence, and your partner likes to do the same. If this mutual indulgence were to get out of hand, you could conceivably overdo having fun and start to ignore your duties. This is not likely to be a serious problem, however, because you’re almost certain to have other factors in your charts that give some seriousness and control. The important things are the good feelings and closeness that this aspect engenders. These can help you to avoid or overcome any problems that may arise in your relationship.

Jacqueline’s Saturn is sextile John’s Ascendant.
You have a strong commitment to each other, and want to help each other to feel more secure. While Jacqueline may make rules for John to follow, these would be mainly to help his goals materialize. John is likely to be the one who supports whatever structures his partner creates. By itself, this aspect may not make for an exciting life together, but the good thing is that it provides a secure base upon which you can build almost anything.

Jacqueline’s Pluto is square John’s Ascendant.
With this aspect between your charts, you may find that you more often challenge each other than cooperate. Jacqueline may try to direct and control John, and this could damage John’s self-esteem. Or John could use the force of his personality to undermine the Jacqueline’s power, and thereby make her feel ineffectual. Also implicit in this combination, however, is the possibility of being a powerful and effective couple. So, if either of you feels that the other is putting you down, analyze your situation. When you determine what’s wrong, you can change it. Find ways to cooperate, and you’ll become stronger both as individuals and as a couple.

John’s Moon is sextile Jacqueline’s Ascendant.
There’s a strong personal tie between you, and you each want to help the other to better express who he or she is. John tends to nurture Jacqueline, and Jacqueline’s personality and manner enable John to express his feelings better. You each make the other feel cared- for and special.

If there’s any danger, it would lie in being too helpful to each other. John might nurture too much, making Jacqueline feel smothered, or Jacqueline might encourage John so strongly that John becomes overly emotional. It’s unlikely, however, that such problems would happen often. The deep feelings that you have for each other should far outweigh any of these minor upsets.

John’s Mercury is opposite Jacqueline’s Ascendant.
The two of you are likely to enjoy chatting about yourselves and your immediate environment, and in fact that is one of the things that may have drawn you to each other. Sometimes with this aspect, however, these conversations on the personal level can turn into picking at each other. If Jacqueline starts to tell John what to say or how to say it, or John starts instructing Jacqueline on how to behave, you should air your discomfort by having a talk together. If you remember to support rather than criticize each other, your ready ability to keep in touch with each other at all times will ensure a strong and lasting relationship.

John’s Venus is quincunx Jacqueline’s Ascendant.
There’s a strong attraction between you, but there may be a mismatch in what each of you needs in terms of love, affection and pleasure. If you each try to force the other to adjust to your needs, you may end up with neither of you getting what you want. Instead of pressuring your partner to do it your way, it’s better to take turns putting yourselves totally at the other person’s disposal. At times, Jacqueline should give John free rein to express affection in his own way, and at other times John should show affectionate approval for Jacqueline’s looks and manner without trying to change her in the least. If you take turns in this way, you’ll each have your own needs met, and since you’ll be happier as individuals, you’ll also be happier with each other.

John’s Mars is opposite Jacqueline’s Ascendant.
While Jacqueline might be attracted to John’s ability to take charge, this forceful quality of his might also sometimes make her feel hurried and pushed. And while John is drawn to his partner’s personality and appearance, he might feel hampered or restrained by the way she likes to come on to the world. There’s an attraction between you, but there could also be a feeling that the other person disapproves. To enable Jacqueline simply to enjoy John’s assertiveness, John should find ways to take the initiative without directing her. To enable John to feel less inhibited, Jacqueline should try to let him take the initiative without interfering. You’ll then maintain balance in your relationship, and will be able to channel your energies into constructive paths.

John’s Jupiter is opposite Jacqueline’s Ascendant.
You and your partner can be instrumental in each other’s growth and development. But if John tries to force his ideas or plans on Jacqueline, Jacqueline could either feel overwhelmed or be led into excesses and extravagances. Another possibility is that Jacqueline could try to influence John’s development in a way that makes him feel spread too thin. While John can make occasional suggestions to Jacqueline about her development, he should refrain from interfering with the way she looks or expresses her personality. And Jacqueline should use her personality to assist, but not to direct, John in pursuing his developmental goals. When you each get what you need individually, you’ll be able to grow as a couple as well.

John’s Uranus is square Jacqueline’s Ascendant.
Together you generate a lot of creative energy and excitement, but there’s also a danger that you could each forget the other’s needs and desires. Then, what started out as exhilarating could turn upsetting and make you feel very insecure. While you may never know exactly what’s going to happen next in your life together, you can become a bit less likely to shock each other if you divert this energy into finding new things to do together, or new ventures or causes in which you can get involved. You may quickly move from project to project, but if you do this together, your surprises will take place in your interaction with others rather than between you. Then you’ll be less likely to upset each other with strange or inconsiderate behavior, and you can enjoy the zest and constant sense of freshness that this aspect implies.

John’s Pluto is sesquare Jacqueline’s Ascendant.
This combination carries the possibility of being a powerful and effective couple, but in fact you may more often challenge each other than cooperate. Feeling that John is trying to control and direct her, Jacqueline could develop low self-esteem, because she thinks that her partner is showing disapproval. And if John senses that Jacqueline is trying to undermine his power, he could start to feel ineffectual. If either of these situations describes what’s happening in your relationship, determine what’s wrong and change it. Find ways to cooperate, and you’ll feel stronger both individually and as a couple.

Jacqueline’s Ascendant is trine John’s Midheaven.
Jacqueline’s personality works well with John’s public self. For example, Jacqueline’s personality could enhance John’s career, and John could provide a forum in which Jacqueline can express her personality. Either or both of you might occasionally feel that your validity as a couple is dependent on the outer world, instead of on an inner connection. Possibly the public does play an important role in your relationship, but that does not have to be a handicap. As you achieve your goals in the world and also note the favorable response you receive because of the way you blend with each other, you’ll succeed as individuals and your relationship will be enriched as well.

Jacqueline’s Moon is square John’s Midheaven.
There’s a stressful, dynamic interaction between Jacqueline’s emotions and John’s career or public image, so that when feelings and career come up, there could be friction between you. Jacqueline might view John as a workaholic and feel personally neglected, and John could feel professionally undermined by an overly emotional partner. At these times if Jacqueline gives John a bit of extra nurturing, and John publicly announces his appreciation of Jacqueline’s emotional support, you might be surprised at just how comforting this combination can be.

Jacqueline’s Mercury is conjunct John’s Midheaven.
You might enjoy talking about world affairs or career issues, but these conversations will probably be more focused on general information than philosophical implications. For example, you’d be more prone to discuss the specifics of a particular battle than whether the war itself was ethical. On the personal front, you could talk about the details of your work day without touching on the long-term goals and implications of your career. Your conversations won’t usually be deep, but you’ll seldom run out of matters to discuss. Also, disagreements will tend not to be very upsetting, because you won’t be attacking each other’s philosophical principles.

Jacqueline’s Venus is semisextile John’s Midheaven.
With this combination, there may be an uneasy relationship between the fun, love and sociability of Venus on the one hand, and the hard work that’s necessary to further a career and attain worldly success (signified by the Midheaven). Your goals and direction may be quite different from your partner’s, but if you take turns adjusting to each other, you need not be in conflict. Sometimes, John should put aside career goals to make it easier for Jacqueline to seek pleasure and sociability. At other times, Jacqueline should defer personal pleasure and instead turn her charm and sociability toward supporting John’s quest for worldly success. When you adjust to each other in this manner, Jacqueline will still be able to have fun, John can still experience success, and you’ll each have helped your partner achieve goals without forfeiting your own.

Jacqueline’s Jupiter is semisquare John’s Midheaven.
With this combination Jacqueline can stimulate John to achieve more in the outer world, and John can use his career or public image to help Jacqueline to grow and develop. You could, however, be overly optimistic about what you can accomplish, or expect circumstances to take care of themselves. Then, nothing may happen, or results may fall short of expectations. While this aspect doesn’t doom you to failure; it does mean that you need to apply effort. If you’re waiting for fate or your fairy godmother to move you, you may wait for a very long time, but if you work at initiating your plan together, you may be amazed at how much the two of you can achieve.

Jacqueline’s Saturn is quincunx John’s Midheaven.
Although John’s career or public image is connected to Jacqueline’s view of responsibility or commitment, your ideas on these subjects may be quite different. If you each try to force your views onto the other, you’ll probably both feel frustration. Instead of trying to convince your partner that your view is the only correct one, you should each take turns being in the foreground while your partner stands firmly behind you to lend support. Sometimes John should be permitted to concentrate on his career, with Jacqueline being there only to organize and take care of nitty-gritty details. And then Jacqueline should be permitted to carry out her personal responsibilities while John perhaps uses his career or public image to help her. When you each show respect for your partner in this way, you’ll both feel secure rather than limited in your relationship.

Jacqueline’s Pluto is conjunct John’s Midheaven.
If you and your partner are professionally connected, you’ll be a force to reckon with. Even when you don’t work together, the two of you have the ability to wield power together in the world. Jacqueline could use her personal power to promote John’s career, or in some way influence the transformation of his role in the world. Or John may use his career or some other public role to provide a vehicle for Jacqueline to express her personal power. So this combination can be mutually beneficial. However, if either of you tries to take charge without consulting the other, power struggles can ensue. You can avoid confrontations and a feeling that your partner is trying to control you if you remember to confer and make decisions jointly.

John’s Jupiter is square Jacqueline’s Midheaven.
You and your partner may be able to create wonderful plans together about how John can personally expand and Jacqueline can achieve professional success. While the two of you may have no shortage of ideas, implementing the ideas is another matter. You may expect the ideas to materialize by themselves, or perhaps you cannot agree on the steps to take to make them come to fruition. Here the key to success is effort and action. Find a concrete step to take toward initiating one single plan. As you begin to move, you’ll see that you gain momentum, and one success will lead to another until advancement in the outer world becomes an integral part of your interaction.

John’s Saturn is semisextile Jacqueline’s Midheaven.
Although Jacqueline’s career or public image is connected to John’s view of responsibility or commitment, your ideas on these subjects may be quite different. If you each try to force your views onto the other, you’ll probably both feel frustration. Instead of trying to convince your partner that your view is the only correct one, you should each take turns being in the foreground while your partner stands firmly behind you to lend support. Sometimes Jacqueline should be permitted to concentrate on her career, with John being there only to organize and take care of nitty-gritty details. And then John should be permitted to carry out his personal responsibilities while Jacqueline perhaps uses her career or public image to help him. When you each show respect for your partner in this way, you’ll both feel secure rather than limited in your relationship.

John’s Uranus is opposite Jacqueline’s Midheaven.
John’s individualistic and creative impulses are connected with Jacqueline’s career or public image, but when you try to combine these parts of your lives too closely, one could feel restricted and the other could feel embarrassed by the other. Things will work better if Jacqueline is allowed to pursue career goals, with John providing diversion only when requested, and John is allowed to express his individuality as long as it doesn’t interfere with his partner’s career or public image. In this way, you’ll each have your personal needs met. And who knows? Perhaps some of John’s originality may help Jacqueline’s career, and Jacqueline’s position in the world may help John to use his creativity productively.

John’s Pluto is sextile Jacqueline’s Midheaven.
John’s power is connected with Jacqueline’s career or public image, and each of you wants to help your partner to achieve personal goals. John may use his personal power to help Jacqueline succeed professionally, and Jacqueline may provide the arena in which John can assert power. The goals that you attain because of your cooperation will not only strengthen your relationship, but will also make you feel more powerful as individuals.

John’s North Node is sesquare Jacqueline’s Midheaven.
There’s a connection between Jacqueline’s career or public image and the relationships that John brings to the partnership, and this could result in friction between the two of you. If Jacqueline feels disliked or disrespected by John’s acquaintances, her self-esteem and career or public image could suffer. Or John might think that Jacqueline’s career or public image causes his friends to feel inhibited. To make such problems less of an issue in your partnership, it would be a good idea to take occasional breaks from dealing with these individuals.

Balancing Your Separate Egos
The Sun has to do with your inner life direction and also with your conscious conception of yourself. In close relationships, one of the chief issues the Sun will bring up is each person’s ego, and how the other partner does or doesn’t support it.

Since the Sun is such a central part of the horoscope, aspects involving the Sun of one or both partners are likely to be among the major keynotes of your relationship. Aspects between one person’s Sun and the other’s Moon are particularly important, as they have proven to be one of the strongest possible attractors between two people, especially in a long-term relationship like marriage.

Jacqueline’s Sun and John’s Sun are in sextile.
, You and your partner may feel compelled to help each other in the areas of life direction and ego gratification. However, one of you may take action without consulting the other. You may sometimes wish that your partner wouldn’t try to be so helpful, but the end result will probably make you both happy. To minimize annoyances, it would be a good idea to confer with your partner before you move forward with your plans. If you make a point of doing this, your partner may follow suit, and it could become a natural part of your relationship.

Jacqueline’s Sun is conjunct John’s Saturn.
From Jacqueline’s perspective, John can provide either stability and structure, or frustration and limitation. On his part, John might view Jacqueline as someone to guide and protect. This may be either a duty lovingly performed, or a burden of too much responsibility.

If either of you feels restricted by your partner, you can relieve this feeling by defining your life direction, getting organized, creating a plan and then taking action. It may not be easy and it certainly will not be spontaneous, but there is something to be said for knowing where you stand and what you’re doing. With this combination, you may discover that your relationship enables you become noticed for your achievements. You may even receive rewards, and that should make the hard work worthwhile.

Jacqueline’s Sun is conjunct John’s Neptune.
It’s not easy to explain the attraction between you and your partner, because it occurs on a deep level and it defies description. At times, each could view the other as a savior or as someone who is perfect. With this aspect it’s possible to see an inner beauty that the world doesn’t see, but it’s also possible that you simply aren’t seeing realistically. Gradually you may realize that the partner who you thought was perfect and totally dedicated to you isn’t always there for you, and, even worse, may be trying to take advantage of you. While you should be aware of this possibility, it’s best not to dwell upon it. If you remember that no one’s really perfect, you’ll probably be inclined to accept and forgive. But feelings of victimization should be addressed. If you feel exploited by your partner, ask for something for yourself. Either you’ll receive it and know that you were wrong, or you’ll have brought the issue to the surface so that you can deal with it openly. This aspect can help you to grow together spiritually, and the